Episode 4Sep 4, 2026· 23:11
"The Death of the Pastor's Wife" | A Letter to the Church
The story of Mica Miller is one of the many stories that fuels the heart behind Holy, Not Holier. In this episode, we’re taking a hard look at the red flags surrounding Mica’s story—from spiritual abuse and manipulation to biblical illiteracy, unchecked authority, and a church culture that failed to hold leadership accountable. But this isn’t just about one pastor or one church. It’s about us. What happens when forgiveness is used to avoid accountability? When we prioritize protecting reputations over protecting people? When we stop exercising discernment because someone has a title? Mica’s story forces us to ask difficult questions about spiritual leadership, discernment, accountability, and what it truly means to represent Christ. Your church attendance is not your ministry. Your life is. So the question is: If not you, then who? 📖 Proverbs 9:10 • Romans 1:15–32 In this episode: • Spiritual abuse and weaponizing Scripture • When church leadership goes unchecked • The congregation’s responsibility to speak up • Discernment vs. blind loyalty • Forgiveness without accountability • What Mica’s story can teach the modern church • Why our lives—not our titles or platforms—are our ministry
Episode 3Aug 6, 2026· 16:59
Legalism vs Discipline: The Difference and Why We Get it Wrong
Are you struggling to tell the difference between biblical discipline and legalism? In this episode of Holy, Not Holier, we explore how to pursue obedience, holiness, and spiritual growth without falling into a performance-based faith. Together we'll unpack three signs you may be stuck in legalism, examine what Scripture says about grace, repentance, and heart transformation, and discuss how church culture can sometimes blur the line between discipline and works-based Christianity. If you've ever wondered whether you're obeying God out of love or trying to earn His approval, this episode will encourage you to embrace the freedom of the gospel and build a relationship with Jesus that is rooted in grace—not striving. Song
Episode 1Apr 28, 2026· 13:44
Stop Letting Resentment Come Between You and Jesus
In this episode we dive into all things Resentment. We've all dealt with feelings of injustice in one way or another. What defines us is how we manage those feelings. You may be wondering: What does resentment look like? Am I justified in feeling this way? How is this coming between Jesus and I? What are the biblical references to responding to resentment? Tune in and let's unpack this together!